To stay or to go…


I decided to wait until I had something to say that really mattered to me, as my first post for 2016.

I have no New Year’s Resolutions. I have chosen rather to focus on an idea; a thought that I will try apply to all aspects of my life in 2016…

To stay or to go.

To quote Al Pacino in the movie, Any Given Sunday.

“You know when you get old in life things get taken from you. That’s part of life. But, you only learn that when you start losing stuff. You find out that life is just a game of inches.”  He goes on to say…
“I’ll tell you this… in any fight it is the guy who is willing to die who is going to win that inch. And I know if I am going to have any life anymore it is because, I am still willing to fight, and die for that inch. because that is what LIVING is.”

life Happens. Some days are breathtakingly beautiful. Some days are boring and uneventful. Some days life kicks you in the pit of your stomach and laughs at you while you sit curled up in corner licking your wounds wondering “why me?”. Thinking back on the last few years, I have had my fair share of kicks in the stomach. The result? In some respects I am more cynical, less trusting, more cautious but certainly much wiser. I am also stronger, more determined, always hopeful and very, very humbled.

The biggest lessons I have learned are from the moments when I made a conscious decision to stay or to let go, instead of sitting back waiting for other people’s choices to decide which direction my life was headed. For example, To stay in a situation that did not serve me well, to let go of people that no longer had a positive role in my life. We are constantly being presented with a choice to stay or to go. Making that decision is never easy when you are plagued with “what if’s”, but making a decision and sticking to it can be a powerful approach to taking control of your life.

So this year, I encourage you to join me in making a choice. Either stay in a situation that makes you unhappy to go do something about it!

Decide to improve your health and well being and do whatever it takes to keep you on that path. In June of this year will you regret not having started now.

If you feel unfulfilled at work and yearn for a different path, do what needs to be done and find your passion. Find a mentor, study part time, try something new… Draw up a plan and just start. One small step in a different direction could change everything.

Take those chances in Love that may scare you. It may work, it may not. But maybe it will be the most beautiful thing that could ever have happened to you. If it isn’t, you will have gained a lesson that will make you a better partner for the one that is meant for you. Just don’t ever settle or give up! He or She is out there and no matter what you believe, you deserve to be happy.

Such easy advice isn’t it? Yet, as in most cases… the advice we dispense to others so easily we battle to follow ourselves. The truth is that change is never easy. It can be messy and scary and sometimes, it just doesn’t work out. I refuse to give in though, I refuse to settle for anything (or anyone) that doesn’t make my heart skip a beat!

Here’s to a magic 2016, and all the butterflies that will come with it 🙂

“Set your life on fire. Seek out those that fan your flames!”


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